A man that is in love will stop at nothing to catch and KEEP the one he has fallen in love with. Thanks Lesson learned. ), This exact same thing just happened to me to! Especially him with 3 kids @ home. Second, ghosting is not only pulling away for him. Of and told me he has never met anyone like me and I was too good to be true but tjah he wants to settle I am not begging for him to come back. Im not fond of my birthday, nor am I a normal woman who fawns over all children & babies, so I would never have done either of those things without him starting themwhich he did. I had no idea who he was, and I was like, Who are you? He replied all disappointed saying Oh its _____ and we talked a few days ago. I said, No, I have chat history saved up from a month ago and theres no history for your phone number. ????????????????????????????????!!!! I said I forgive you but why did you wait so long to tell me? A great burden was lifted from me and I felt free again. Your ex tells you directly he's missing you. Ashley, what you need to do is look at YOURSELFtake a long, hard lookand say What am I worth? Apparently, YOU think youre of so little worth that its okay for men to ignore you. You are his back-up. Where exactly do I start ..cause I am soooo hurt to the point of anger!lol He lives two states over from where I live, with some of my other relatives in the same town. At the end of Jan he moved and we continued to text each other every day and then a week before Valentines I found him back on the dating site we had met on (I knew better then) . Theyre cowards. im very confuse on what he want. I later tried to call him and it went right to voicemail so Im pretty sure he blocked my number right after my text response went to him. You dont really think that as your relationship progresses, hell one day decide to vanish from your life completely and then come back when it suits him. Commitment is something serious, and he either wasnt looking for it or didnt see you two being together in the long term. But, I would rather avoid her and try o pretend that I do not care at all about her despite my strong feelings for the lady. But these guys are in their mid 30s and 40s. I anwered that that that was sweet and that i missed him. Cause I said wait you have a darn phone and know my number!! @ Cathy 8. To this day I still dont know what happened, but although he chose to dispose of what we had, I am just greatful that I a man not with a guy that doesnt value me, because life is too short to be wasted on irrelevant people. Its been 3 days since contact. Sometimes, it can be just testing your interest level, if they have reason to believe you may not be that into them. We did fall in love and it was great, we spoke on the phone, emailed, chatted on video, and even met after a year. He never hid his interest in seeing me as soon as he could. We are in this together!! He has been on FB every single day though. but then he started talking about spending weekend in an island. We have broken up a couple of times, but always made up. Within a week we saw eachother 3 times th firstweekend I stayed over and it really felt like I knew him forever. 3: He felt guilty about seeing me so he just stopped. At least she doesnt sound like drama for you if you are emotionally available and not in crisis. I ended up really hitting it off with this guy. And yes it will be really painful for us both. He read that message around 10 am when he was in class! Following day, nothing. Keep telling yourself that. After 4 days straight of messaging about how our days were going, it got flirtier so that by days 5 and 6 there was straight out sexting at my initiation, not his. He sent back a thanks doctor and that was it.. This is why guys disappear. Hes having a lot of alibis. Wed text for a bit and theyd want to meet up and such. Hes 40, and even though I thought it might be too soon, had me meet his 6-yr-old about 1.5/ 2 months in (twice). Ok, I told him I get it and gave him nothing but space, leaving him alone. May I ask what has transpired over the past month? He just left like that? After that he contacted me and he proposed! In fact, you have everything to gain because you will find out if you matter to him or not. Down and I seem like someone hed want to be with and all that jazz about how I intrigue him and how much he likes me and how will never hurt me and will be honest with me. We ended up falling in love and spending plenty of time together. Then come back, then two weeks, on and on. I was not feeling well over that weekend. I asked if anything was wrong and he more or less said Yes, Im not ready for where this is going, for a relationship.. Long story short I dont agree that we shouldnt reach out for him. His charm was his method of maintain this said option, call it the premium. I went back to my home country for the holidays and one morning I read on facebook he had decided not to move to nyc after all. We spent the whole week together; movies, dinner, shopping, museums, gymwe even had classes together and he would always take me home after that. I get the attention seeker in you Ryan, Its never easy figuring out that a guy who had great potential to be your boyfriend ends up MIA. But why does this keep happening? I wont wait again. Im am kicking myself going through all these comments and realizing the best thing to do after a break up is to end contact. What to text him when he disappears has also to do with your ability to text while being stressed and anxious. We finally texting each other and everything was just going awesome. Three years is a long time to just break up over a text. Any advice? But no single, straight man in my age bracket (30-40) but not any older or younger ones are sane or man enough to be a man and not a pussy running away crying because he cant handle emotions. Thats total bullshit!! When I want to hear from him I text him, he replies always. ), he freaked and said he did not think he would meet anyone like me so soon(been divorced only 11 months). To which he relied he will give me a shout later but that was last Tuesday and he hasnt called or texted. (you just dont understand) What you are experiencing is totally what happen to me now. Messaged him today nothing, hes completely ignoring me, not answering his phone or text. He was a little more quieter but not by much. This pain is so deep and Im mad that I shared so much of myself with him. Just at the time you are convenient. We had our first date? Since the very first day, I already knew its gonna be hard since hes almost 20 years older than me. I felt like I needed to hear an explanation from him but at the same time I tell myself that if he wants to talk to me, he would. I didnt contact him, instead I made valentine plans with someone else lucky Im quite attractive and have tons of options. And now I dont think he even cares. I would even take a once a week call, but to no prevail. I have some of his DVDs too so might just wait & see if he texts me about it. I am so hurt and confused. Meeting strangers, and then having trust issues as we have no clue about how genuine or not their back ground is. 14. He isnt the guy for you. The only thing is we have had no physical intimacy at all in the last 3 of the 4 years. I feel the reason he disappeared was because of my actions. I just dont care anymore. Viber time stamp says that he was last online 30min after he texted me nd sknce then not online. Very early into our relationship he told me how much he cares for me and that he even loves me.. Ive never been in a serious relationship before so I was hesitant on what I felt but said I cared for him too to spare his feelings. he said no its not like that. And he has been with models and girls who have had Timmy tuck and stuff like that. Even if hes scared she may find out, he could call me from a work phone or someone elses phone. Obvs I dont wanna reach out to him and be desperate but he already prolly thinks Im crazy for deleting my Instagram. What the hell. Was messaging a guy on happn. The textes started to get flirty and very sex heavy. She could not understand this, I mean she seemed supportive but our relationship could not go on, she kept making plans and asking me to do this and that, when all I had in my head was that I needed all my focus and attention on my health. There is no God or supernatural force guiding this world. Thanks for sharing a male perspective. He wouldnt make weekend plans but would still constantly text me and send me pictures from wherever he was. He dated a girl 30 years younger than him who hurt him real bad. Until I came back to my city. One of the easiest new connections Ive ever had. Why havent you reached back? Im thankful to have a different outlook though after your stories. In the 8 days Ive come to own i was overly invested in this relationship because I enjoyed the connection, and that we dont really know each other very well but I cant understand why he doesnt want his stuff back, or why hed be willing to throw away a friendship at the very least. THEN the last line, he said I wont be able to get to the computer much to talk to you as Ill be bedridden (he uses a computer not a tablet or iphone for POF)but that caught me! Promise. I recently met him off a dating site. So this one happened to me as well. Where do they go? Anyways, now that I think about it, there were a lot of red flags like he was 31 and the longest relationship he had was 6 months. Cause its not fair to lead them on. I wish he hadnt initiated all of the things/situations which indicate some sort of seriousness or interest (meeting a child, celebrating a birthday). The last guy I just let it go I didnt like him all that much anyway. They are definitely the biggest cowards that exist!!!! It doesnt make you cheap or easy. Maybe you've sent him a number of messages, maybe you're acting a little too needy, a little too demanding, maybe you've asked him a challenging question, a confrontational question, maybe you've sent him a bunch of text messages or statements that didn't require an answer and the answer or the response is more implied rather than . He has not been in a relationship where he said he felt like he wanted to marry the person except for one girl who he was friends Your email address will not be published. I realized it is all about his need to feel in control that he can take it or leave it. my theory is that creating friendships first is ALWAYS the way to go- you build trust you explore mutual interests, and if there is attraction it can get steamy romantic and it happens to be someone you actually like. This is interesting You ghost as a test to see if we will reach out? Yet he still doesnt talk to me or see me help!?! It doesnt matter that If it hurts like Hell but I am not going to pursue any man!!! Bothe f us are in our mid to upper 40s he had never been married. I am devistated and not sure what to do. The men Ive dated come on very strong and tell me how much they like me and cant understand why I havent been snapped up etc. And it failed miserably. Stop talking to him and if he starts texting you a lot again he is probably interested. Weve had numerous conversations about this. Makes me think about why his ex cheated on him maybe because he has a hard time getting it up haha. This is the main reason ive stuck around, Feeling like he needs a friend sometimes, And the person i am being there for him. I am actually flabbergasted at how they can act like everything is so normal when both of us know that he is screwing up badWe chatted for a while and I let the conversation trail off and did not pursue it anymore and he went back to his quiet, disappearing self..No word since then, and I pride myself on not giving in to the urge to check on him however casuallySo this is it, I will probably never hear from him, but I think Over the weekend I will be so busy with other stuff that I will be able to get my mind off himKeep yourself busyBuy yourself something pretty, get a new haircut..or indulge in some delicious gourmet icecreamAnything which will stop you from doing something stupid like reaching out to himI keep telling myself and you should doif/when they are interested they will contact usand if they dont they are not worth the importance and energy that we waste on them..Be strong, you deserve so much better :)). 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